Men and Easy Sex: It’s not what you think…again!

The thing that women need to realize when searching for a masculine man is that in order for him to want to protect you and cherish you for life, he must EARN your love. That’s how it occurs in his head. A good man will know that he is YOURS because he EARNED your love and respect, and your trust and affection. That makes YOU the valuable woman he will want to take care of. This is one MAJOR way men respond to women.

Men looking for long term relationships ultimately are attracted to VIRTUE…not VAGINAS. I know it sounds old fashioned but I didn’t make this up. If you give him “love” (sex) before he “earned it” you often will kill his momentum towards wanting to PROVIDE, PROTECT and CHERISH you. Yes, quick sex usually stunts his emotional investment in you at that moment.  In other words, sex will have him show up with his penis before his mind and stop him from connecting with his heart to go further emotionally. If you’ve been with a man for years and he has no desire to marry you, guess what may be going on. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for you, but he may just be hanging out until he finds a woman who values herself more and he will be willing to earn her love. Ouch!  This will leave you with a guy who loves to roll around naked…and doesn’t have to do anything for you because he never had a chance to truly WANT TO, emotionally. Get it? Same guy with two different results because you slept with him too quickly.

The modern woman has been conned into thinking that sex will get him close to you and then he’ll fall for you…. but it doesn’t happen that way for most men. Author Tracie Mc Millan says it best: “ It’s like working a temp job hoping you’ll get hired full time because you’re so valuable. Hum No!…you’re a temp!” Your need for intimacy may be the killer pill.…can you see it?

Boys, not Men, will love you for the easy, quick, free sex, but these guys will never truly take care of you. They just won’t and they don’t want to. Think back, look over your history with men. Can you spot them? They get what they want without working for it and/or having to earn your love. They hang out for a while…then disappear. Boys do not want the responsibility of your happiness. A good man will.  (You should read that phrase again) Worst of all, when it goes down the toilet, you often feel used, resentful, and angry and you’ll blame him. This situation is created without knowing what you triggered with the quick sex in the first place. Sex after the third or fourth date is too fast to build something on. (unless sex is all you want, then go for it)…He got lucky. That’s what he’ll tell his friends. Quick sex will get his attention and he’ll stick around for more… because Hell, you’re easy!!  Unfortunately it will usually not get you his affection. Not long term. You’re a temp!

 

How feminism has everyone losing.

Study explains why college women abandon courtship for hook-ups

This study is from the Institute for American Values.  by Elizabeth Marquardt..

A new study into American college girls shows that most young women today have bought into the feminist belief that women should be as free sexually as men are. So they go to parties, get drunk so that they can have casual sex with some guy. They will say “oh my gosh, I was so drunk, I hooked up with so and so…” Perhaps not surprisingly, many noted that being drunk helped to loosen one’s inhibitions and make it easier to hook up. A number of students noted that being drunk could later serve as her excuse for the hook up. 

 A sophomore at Howard University said that “I am kind of learning from a lot of the mistakes that I have made.” At a further extreme, some women saw their future marriage as the reason to experiment widely in the present. A Rutgers University student said,“I think hooking up with different people and seeing what you like and don’t like is a good idea. Because eventually you’re going to have to… marry someone and I’d just like to know that I experienced everything.”

Although it is admirable to take risks and learn from one’s mistakes, these women would probably find it difficult to explain how having your heart broken a few or even many times in your early years — or trying to separate sex from feeling, as in hooking up — is good preparation for a trusting and happy marriage later on.

I think worst of all, what these young women miss is that each time they have casual sex or hook up …a small part of them, a piece of their heart, goes away with that guy. I want to make this clear…Ladies, when you have sex, a piece of your heart goes away with that guy when he leaves. Stay with that for a moment… So eventually in the name of freedom and easy sex, women, who bought into this, end up feeling empty, used up, betrayed and cannot trust or be vulnerable anymore. Worst of all… they cannot fall in love. Wow !!! Thank you feminists type 2 for screwing it all up for everyone (READ ARTICLE HERE:

https://projectequinox.net/?p=521).

Virtue may be old fashioned, but a good man, a man of character, looks for it. He will always hope for sex, and that’s why he’s on a date with you in the first place. But if you hold back, he will have a chance to get his heart involved and see you as a woman who has boundaries and respect for herself. He will see you as a woman who can resist his charms and efforts to woo you out of your clothes. THAT is attractive to a man looking for a long term relationship. A virtuous woman is safe for him to build a future with, spend his energy, time and resources on. 

Commitment means building a future for a man. A good man will not do this with a woman he can’t trust to be virtuous. You sleep with him to bring him close and (very often) the exact opposite happens. Nice huh?

Quick sex is partay!!  Nothing wrong with that, but it won’t get you long term commitment. Again, look into your past. It’s your choice.

Andre Paradis      Project Equinox

www.projectequinox.net

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Young Women and Morality

Young Women and Morality:

How radical feminism has everyone losing.

By: Elizabeth Marquardt

Once a woman abandons femininity for Type 2 Feminism (see article “Good Feminism vs. Bad Feminism”), sex is all that she can use to get noticed by a man. Men are like hiring managers, and courting is like a job interview for the job of marriage and mothering. If a woman tries to get the job by having sex with the interviewer, he isn’t going to hire her since sex has nothing to do with the job. There are children involved, you know – he has to think of them when he makes the hiring decision. But women have been taught to think bad things about men ( savages and rapists) and marriage (is slavery) by feminists – so they don’t even try to understand men, or to respect men, or prepare their character for being a wife and mother. Feminists just don’t understand that basic work is needed to understand men and prepare for marriage.

In a previous post, I explained how feminists wanted to get women to drink like men, have sex like men, and to abolish courtship and marriage. Under the influence of feminism and Hollywood celebrities, women began to choose men to have sex with without any consideration of morality, religion, marriage, etc. They thought that sex was an easy way to trick a man into committing to them without having to treat him like a real person, or to take the demands of marriage and parenting seriously. (They have been taught to value education and careers over husbands and children,). This results in a cycle of binge-drinking, one-night-stands, cheating, co-habiting, breaking-up, stalking, aborting, etc.., until the woman’s ability to trust and love anyone but herself is completely destroyed. And yet these college women somehow believe this is “adventurous”, that it makes them feel “sexy”, and that the experience of being selfish and seeing the worst kind of men acting in the worst possible ways, point blank, somehow prepares them for marriage and motherhood.

Statistics show that often, a young unmarried woman’s biological father was NOT selected by her mother based on his ability to make commitments and moral judgments. Many feminists prefer men who do not judge women morally, nor impose his character on her. But those very things that young unmarried  women today seem to dislike most about men, because they fear rejection on moral, are exactly the things that make men good husbands and fathers. They don’t want to be judged or led, so they choose immoral, shallow men— Men who are not firm on morality and character who cannot be counted on to act morally and self-sacrificially. And when they fail and the marriages break up, the children grow up fatherless and may develop negative views of men and relationships.

Every young unmarried woman who chooses a bad man, and then has a bad experience is pushing away marriage with both hands. The more she destroys her ability to trust, love and care for others, the less she is able to be happy and effective in a relationship, marriage and life.     Share this

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Femininity is a strength not a weakness!

Yes…let me scream it Ladies…” BEING FEMININE IS A STRENGTH!!! ”

 

Femininity is so wonderfully powerful…. especially on men.

What do I mean? One aspect of the masculine paradigm is to resist “the push”. What do you get when you push a man? You get an instant push back, resistance, tension and/or… an argument. Pushing always fails for women on a masculine man.
It will leave you feeling disconnected and frustrated if not furious, for both of you. This is a man-on-man approach and it works for men. Men will calibrate each other and “adjust” the power to function in given circumstances. This does not work for women…it just doesn’t! His resisting and pushing back will make you feel overpowered, dismissed, rejected or hurt. For him, it’s a knee jerk reaction. He’ll push back and often walk away, getting away from the pressure.

So, how do you get what you want with men?

Well, how about your best tool – Your femininity… because it WORKS !!!

The feminine approach is to invite action or change….not tell or demand (Push)

The Art of feminine power is:

“Inviting a man into action or change with your heart, spirit and feminine
energy….not with the directive and edge of your words.” (Adam Gilad)

Tell him to do or change and he’ll resist. Invite him to do or change and reward him when he does and you will see wonderful things happen. Men play for points…he won’t be compelled to do much unless he understands what his actions will provide. Those are the points he is looking to score.
Men don’t really want to do or change if they can’t see the value. If they cannot see the reward, action may seem like a waste of energy. For most men, if there is no win, there is no point. If there is no point there will be no action. But a man who loves you will do, adjust and change to make you happy.
He is wired that way…and it works wonderfully and… it’s good for you! You will feel connected and cherished by him instead of thinking he’s just a jerk.

Femininity softens men and makes men want to do for you… try it!

Again, invite and reward him, don’t push, demand or challenge. You’ll end up fighting and…losing.

Use your femininity to trigger his instinct to protect and provide, and you win!

Better yet…you both win!

Andre

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What do men want?

Isn’t that a loaded question???

Let me give it to you straight and to the point.

Men are looking to be winners in life all together, moment by moment, day by day, all the time. Compete, conquer, win is the agenda on some level… always!

That’s what men do.

A good man, a man of character, already has his life “working” which makes him a winner. What he wants then, is to add to his already working life… which is usually… a good woman. Men want to be in relationships but not for the reasons women want a relationship.

This is what men want:

A good man is looking for someone to enhance his life, to empower him on his mission and to support him in living his life’s purpose…. BAM !!! That’s it !

A good man’s life is already working, so why would he want to give that up??? He doesn’t want to feel trapped, made wrong, nagged, pushed to change or be emasculated…that’s ridiculous! These are all signs that he’s losing , Completely going against his nature.

He is looking for a woman who will help him live his purpose, build a future and a life and often, a family. That’s what a good woman looks like to men.

Yes!! a woman who gets that, a woman who “gets him”, respects him, loves him and supports him on his journey….whatever that may be , will give him the power to win in life. Her support will help him built, conquer and WIN! It’s good for him and it’s good for her.

So obvious to him…maybe not to her but here it is,..That’s what good, healthy men want…and, these men are everywhere!!! You just have to see them for who they are…not what you want them to be. A version of your best girlfriend he will never be.

If you know and do what works for men….everyone wins and… he will cherish you for life !

Andre Paradis

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Men, women and the natural flow

Throughout mankind’s history, men being driven to protect and provide for women lived through danger, risk, urgency and sacrifice. All this driven by the high levels of testosterone men have in their bodies and such activities created massive amounts of dopamine…ah yes!… men’s favorite feel good drug.

This kind of life style allowed women the space for children, having the time to raise them, support other women, participate in the community and feeling connected, Feeling connected and “part of” created massive amounts of oxytocin,,,ah! and  there it is….women’s favorite feel good drug.

This created a system where men where happy to work hard and even do crappy jobs to provide for their family,
Imagine the life of a miner for instance, dirty, stifling, dangerous work for a paycheck. In exchange at the end of a long day, the wife would cook  and provide a comfortable home for him to rest and raise his family. This made hard work worth it. There was also a huge amount of pride in this for men and they felt respected by their women and community for their efforts.

In today’s world where the women are providing for themselves, this formula falls short. Both men and women are feeling the impact. Women run around trying to be super woman and do it all, only to often feel overwhelmed, under appreciated and drained.

Ugh! Nothing lovely or good comes from a drained woman. Men are overlooked for their efforts and often minimized, emasculated and right down disrespected for who they are.

Nice!

This created a new reality where men, not being respected for their efforts, stop doing what they were willing to do and sacrifice for. Women now, experience men as being un-supportive, shallow and self centered. Wonder how this happened??? Can you see it?

Now women, this is for you,
Men who aren’t needed will walk away from you. Men need to be needed. Men suffer from depression when they don’t feel needed. It’s in his DNA. It is primal and it is nature.

Women need to feel safe…but how will you ever feel safe if you refuse or deny men’s help and allow yourselves to be vulnerable. (Scary, I know, especially when you are raised to be tough)
When and if you allow a man’s support and care, when and if you allow a man to DO for you, you will effortlessly slip into your femininity, which men LOVE and cherish. You will feel the tension of being a super woman fade a little. You will have more space for generosity and love for the ones near you and YES! Men will step up, YES! men will provide and protect you and YES! men will make you feel seen and safe. A safe woman has access to love and all good things are possible from there.

This idea may seem old fashion and obsolete but nature knows best. Going along with your chemistry will always feel better to your body and to your heart. Going against it will leave you feeling worn out and disconnected from yourself and your spirit.

Over giving women burn out, under giving men are needy and selfish.

Nature wants men to be giving and women to be receiving. Right down to our bodies. (just look down)

It’s how it’s design and it’s what worked for millennia.

This won’t change anytime soon even with all the education and evolution we believe raise us above all this…Nope! The default system still overrides the downloads and new apps.

Hope this makes you think.

Andre Paradis

Project Equinox

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Men-Women: finding the perfect balance

Hello all,

Hope this finds you all in good health and spirit. I wanted to share with you my life’s purpose and the reason for this letter.

My mission in life is to bring harmony and peace between Men and Women. With divorce rates toping 68% … no wonder these numbers are so high.

The problem I see is that three things are essential for a relationship to work: You need chemistry, your bodies attracted to each other. You need compatibility, looking for similar things in life, lifestyle, how to raise kids, sometimes religion etc.. The third is the one that we fail as the most. Communications. How you communicate, making deals, asking for what you want and telling what you don’t want. Negotiating, time, space, money, support, play, sex, chores etc. I know it’s not sexy but it is THE way to successful relationships.

I have been studying this material for years, I started for my own sake and my marriage. I didn’t want to be another casualty of divorce, What I knew is that I was committed to my wife and our lives , even so , I found that we ended up in difficult situations that I couldn’t understand, I found that very dangerous….what was happening that I couldn’t see?

As I leaned how women function, respond, feel and need to be well and happy, I realized that none of these things lined up with the way I function, respond, feel and want. Whoa !

Next, the way we talk and how and why we communicate didn’t line up either. What’s going on ??? Are we from the same planet? Well! we might as well be different species for we are in no way a version of each other. I mean….not even close!

Weird but it’s also the good news.

Year later my discoveries where so juicy that I would teach what I had learn and uncovered to anyone in earshot. A moment later Project Equinox was born.

Project Equinox is dedicated to people looking to Master their communication skills for successful relationships and the understanding of the radical differences between Men and Women. We know what it takes for a love relationship to work, whether straight, gay, lesbian, all the same. Complimentary dynamic is the magic.

Join us for an amazing adventure of discovery, understanding and fun.

Andre Paradis

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A New Way

THE NEW REALITY:

Men want to be Heroes, but society has us believe that Masculinity is bad, harsh and must be contained and dialed down.

Women need to feel safe, but society has us believe that Femininity is weak and that a woman must be strong and powerful to be valuable now a days.

Masculine Men are attracted to feminine energy and feminine Women. Feminine energy brings out the best in Men and makes Men show up as providers, protectors and cherish(er)s of women. This instinct is deeply rooted in Men’s genes and DNA

Feminine Women feel safe around healthy masculine energy. True masculine energy is grounded and stable. True feminine energy is trusting, passive and vulnerable to the masculine. Femininity is to receive and thus respecting of Men’s instinct to give, provide and be Heroes.

The true challenge between Men and Women is finding the balance of Vulnerability and Trust, Giving and Receiving, Respecting and Cherishing and the communication tools necessary to truly understand and negotiate our needs and wants

Andre Paradis

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