Adapted from Sex 3.0 by J.J. Roberts, with additional insights by Andre Paradis 

Broadly speaking, modern feminism falls into two distinct camps, each based on a very different definition of equality. 

Type One Feminism: Equal Worth, Equal Rights 

The first definition of equality says this: women are just as important as men and should never be treated as second-class citizens.
This is Type One feminism. 

Type One feminism gave rise to historic and necessary movements such as women’s suffrage, where women fought for the right to vote, run for office, work, own property, and achieve financial independence. 

These victories were inevitable because they were just. 

No authority, whether political, legal, economic, patriarchal, or matriarchal, has legitimacy unless it serves those who submit to it. A society that denies women basic rights fails that test. 

In most Western nations, this battle has largely been won. Women today have political rights, access to careers, education, and economic mobility. 

In many parts of the world, however, the fight continues. Countries like Saudi Arabia only granted women voting rights in 2015, and even now restrict basic freedoms such as driving, making social mobility nearly impossible without physical mobility. 

Wherever women are denied equal rights, Type One feminism remains both necessary and inevitable. Justice always wins in the long run. 

Type Two Feminism: Equality as Sameness 

The second definition of equality claims that men and women are the same, differing only in minor biological details. 

This is Type Two feminism. 

Type Two feminism insists that gender roles, behavioral differences, and even biological tendencies are artificial social constructs imposed by men, who are framed as the enemy or oppressor. 

This idea collapses under even minimal scrutiny. A single nature documentary dismantles the notion that biology is a social invention. 

To maintain this belief, Type Two feminism relies heavily on conformity and shaming. Disagreement is not debated; it is labeled and attacked. 

Fog Alert: Misogyny 

The word misogyny originally meant hatred of women.
Today, it is often repurposed by Type Two feminists to mean:
“You disagree with us.” 

Ironically, the mirror term, misandry, the hatred of men, is frequently displayed within these same circles. Hatred of one sex in the name of equality is not progress; it is hypocrisy. 

If men are framed as the enemy, then the real enemy quickly becomes nature itself, because the differences being rejected are biological, not cultural. 

Why Type Two Feminism Fails Everyone 

Type Two feminism fails women by teaching them to reject femininity, beauty, and softness, the very traits that naturally create attraction, polarity, and connection with men. 

It fails men because it demands attraction without allowing the conditions that create attraction. 

Most importantly, it fails reality. 

This movement operates as a false flag, a term borrowed from military strategy, where blame is deliberately misassigned. Type Two feminism claims that natural, genetic imperatives are inventions of men, when they are not. 

There was never a “battle of the sexes.” The real conflict is Type Two feminism versus nature. 

The Real Goal of a Healthy Society 

Any functional society; patriarchal, matriarchal, or otherwise, must serve both men and women. The aim should always be mutual flourishing, not dominance. 

You cannot improve humanity by advancing 50% of the population at the expense of the other 50%. Life is not a zero-sum game. 

The subjugation of either sex, whether through patriarchy, matriarchy, radical ideology, or violence, is a failure of civilization. 

Type Two feminism is ultimately an attempt to erase gender itself. It breeds resentment, rejects biology, and replaces cooperation with conflict. 

That is why it cannot win. 

And that is why it should not be allowed to spread any further. 

–Andre Paradis 

The thing that women need to realize when searching for a masculine man is that in order for him to want to protect you and cherish you for life, he must EARN your love. That’s how it occurs in his head. A good man will know that he is YOURS because he EARNED your love and respect, and your trust and affection. That makes YOU the valuable woman he will want to take care of. This is one MAJOR way men respond to women.

Men looking for long-term relationships ultimately are attracted to VIRTUE…not VAGINAS. I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I didn’t make this up. If you give him “love” (sex) before he “earned it” you often will kill his momentum towards wanting to PROVIDE, PROTECT and CHERISH you. Yes, quick sex usually stunts his emotional investment in you at that moment.  In other words, sex will have him show up with his penis before his mind and stop him from connecting with his heart to go further emotionally. If you’ve been with a man for years and he has no desire to marry you, guess what may be going on. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for you, but he may just be hanging out until he finds a woman who values herself more and he will be willing to earn her love. Ouch!  This will leave you with a guy who loves to roll around naked…and doesn’t have to do anything for you because he never had a chance to truly WANT TO, emotionally. Get it? Same guy with two different results because you slept with him too quickly.

The modern woman has been conned into thinking that sex will get him close to you and then he’ll fall for you…. but it doesn’t happen that way for most men. Author Tracie Mc Millan says it best: “It’s like working a temp job hoping you’ll get hired full time because you’re so valuable. Hum No! You’re a temp!” Your need for intimacy may be the killer pill.…can you see it?

Boys, not Men, will love you for the easy, quick, free sex, but these guys will never truly take care of you. They just won’t and they don’t want to. Think back, and look over your history with men. Can you spot them? They get what they want without working for it and/or having to earn your love. They hang out for a while…then disappear. Boys do not want the responsibility for your happiness. A good man will.  (You should read that phrase again) Worst of all, when it goes down the toilet, you often feel used, resentful, and angry and you’ll blame him. This situation is created without knowing what you triggered with the quick sex in the first place. Sex after the third or fourth date is too fast to build something on (unless sex is all you want, then go for it). He got lucky. That’s what he’ll tell his friends. Quick sex will get his attention and he’ll stick around for more… because Hell, you’re easy!!  Unfortunately, it will usually not get you his affection. Not long-term. You’re a temp!

How feminism has everyone losing.

Study explains why college women abandon courtship for hook-ups

This study is from the Institute for American Values.  by Elizabeth Marquardt

A new study into American college girls shows that most young women today have bought into the feminist belief that women should be as free sexually as men are. So they go to parties, get drunk so that they can have casual sex with some guy. They will say “oh my gosh, I was so drunk, I hooked up with so and so…” Perhaps not surprisingly, many noted that being drunk helped to loosen one’s inhibitions and make it easier to hook up. A number of students noted that being drunk could later serve as her excuse for the hook up. 

 A sophomore at Howard University said that “I am kind of learning from a lot of the mistakes that I have made.” At a further extreme, some women saw their future marriage as the reason to experiment widely in the present. A Rutgers University student said, “I think hooking up with different people and seeing what you like and don’t like is a good idea. Because eventually you’re going to have to… marry someone and I’d just like to know that I experienced everything.”

Although it is admirable to take risks and learn from one’s mistakes, these women would probably find it difficult to explain how having your heart broken a few or even many times in your early years — or trying to separate sex from feeling, as in hooking up — is good preparation for a trusting and happy marriage later on.

I think worst of all, what these young women miss is that each time they have casual sex or hook up …a small part of them, a piece of their heart, goes away with that guy. I want to make this clear…Ladies, when you have sex, a piece of your heart goes away with that guy when he leaves. Stay with that for a moment… So eventually in the name of freedom and easy sex, women, who bought into this, end up feeling empty, used up, betrayed, and cannot trust or be vulnerable anymore. Worst of all… they cannot fall in love. Wow!!! Thank you, feminists’ type 2, for screwing it all up for everyone (READ ARTICLE HERE:

https://projectequinox.net/?p=521).

Virtue may be old-fashioned, but a good man, a man of character, looks for it. He will always hope for sex, and that’s why he’s on a date with you in the first place. But if you hold back, he will have a chance to get his heart involved and see you as a woman who has boundaries and respect for herself. He will see you as a woman who can resist his charms and efforts to woo you out of your clothes. THAT is attractive to a man looking for a long-term relationship. A virtuous woman is safe for him to build a future with, and spend his energy, time, and resources on. 

Commitment means building a future for a man. A good man will not do this with a woman he can’t trust to be virtuous. You sleep with him to bring him close and (very often) the exact opposite happens. Nice huh?

Quick sex is partay!!  Nothing wrong with that, but it won’t get you a long-term commitment. Again, look into your past. It’s your choice.

Andre Paradis      Project Equinox

www.projectequinox.net

Femininity Is a Strength, Not a Weakness

Let us be completely clear about this: being feminine is one of the most powerful assets a woman possesses in a relationship.

In today’s world, strong and independent women are often conditioned to believe that showing soft, receptive, or traditional feminine energy is a form of surrender. You have built a successful life by being assertive, decisive, and direct. But when you bring that same force into your relationship with a masculine man, you often find yourself hitting a wall of tension and frustration.

Femininity is not passivity. It is a profound force that softens men, opens their hearts, and inspires them to step up for you in ways that direct force never will.

Why “The Push” Always Fails

One fundamental aspect of masculine psychology is resistance to external pressure. What happens when you push a masculine man? You trigger an immediate response: resistance, defensiveness, or an outright argument.

Pushing a man, demanding change, or using an authoritative edge in your voice is a man-on-man dynamic. Men constantly calibrate and test each other using this type of power structure. In business or among men, that energy has its place. But when a woman uses it with her partner, it breaks the emotional bridge between them.

When you push, a man’s knee-jerk reaction is to push back or walk away entirely to avoid the uninvited pressure. For you, his resistance leaves you feeling dismissed, overpowered, or hurt. For him, he is simply defending his autonomy. You both end up frustrated, disconnected, and wondering why a simple conversation turned into a battleground.

The Art of the Feminine Invitation

So how do you get what you want and need from a man? You lean into your best tool: your femininity.

The core difference between masculine and feminine influence comes down to one principle: demanding versus inviting.

• The Masculine Force: Commands, leads and directs for immediate compliance.
• The Feminine Power: Invites a man into action or change through your heart, spirit, and emotional clarity, rather than the sharp edge of your words.

When you tell a man what to do, command or demand that he changes, his instinct is to resist. But when you invite him to step up and express what his support would mean to you, you trigger his core masculine instinct to protect, provide and cherish. An invitation to be your hero.

Men Play for Points

To understand why this works, you have to understand how a logical man thinks. Men are wired around purpose, value, and impact. If a man cannot see the rewards in him taking action, or if he feels that his efforts will be met with criticism rather than appreciation, he views the effort as a waste of his energy. To most men, if there is no win, there is no point. If there is no point, there will be no action.

A man who loves you inherently wants to make you happy. He is wired to solve problems and bring you joy. But he needs to know how to win with you.

When you invite him into an action and reward his effort with genuine appreciation, you give him the outcome he is looking for. Femininity inspires a man to adjust, grow, and go out of his way for you because it makes him feel successful as a partner.

A Win-Win Team

Instead of challenging, demanding, or trying to power through conflicts, shift your approach. Stop relying on “the push” that leads to arguments where both of you lose.

When you use your feminine energy to invite him in, you stop fighting his masculine nature and start activating it. He feels respected and motivated to lead, and you get to experience being cherished, heard, and supported by a man who truly has your back.

You do not have to compromise your strength to be feminine. True strength lies in knowing which energy to bring to build the partnership you desire.

How have you seen the dynamic shift in your relationship when you move from demanding to inviting? Let’s discuss in the comments below.

Stay Blessed.

—Andre

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Isn’t that a loaded question???

Let me give it to you straight and to the point.

Men are looking to be winners in life altogether, moment by moment, day by day, all the time. Compete, conquer, and win is the agenda on some level… always!

That’s what men do.

A good man, a man of character, already has his life “working” which makes him a winner. What he wants then, is to add to his already working life… which is usually… a good woman. Men want to be in relationships but not for the reasons women want a relationship.

This is what men want:

A good man is looking for someone to enhance his life, to empower him on his mission, and to support him in living his life’s purpose…. BAM!!! That’s it!

A good man’s life is already working, so why would he want to give that up??? He doesn’t want to feel trapped, made wrong, nagged, pushed to change, or emasculated…that’s ridiculous! These are all signs that he’s losing, completely going against his nature.

He is looking for a woman who will help him live his purpose, build a future and a life, and often, a family. That’s what a good woman looks like to men.

Yes!! a woman who gets that, a woman who “gets him”, respects him, loves him, and supports him on his journey…. whatever that may be, will give him the power to win in life. Her support will help him build, conquer and WIN! It’s good for him and it’s good for her.

So obvious to him…maybe not to her but here it is. That’s what good, healthy men want…and, these men are everywhere!!! You just have to see them for who they are…not what you want them to be. A version of your best girlfriend he will never be.

If you know and do what works for men…. everyone wins and… he will cherish you for life!

Andre Paradis

Throughout mankind’s history, men being driven to protect and provide for women lived through danger, risk, urgency, and sacrifice. All this is driven by the high levels of testosterone men have in their bodies and such activities create massive amounts of dopamine…ah yes! Men’s favorite feel-good drug.

This kind of lifestyle allowed women the space for children, having the time to raise them, support other women, participate in the community, and feel connected, Feeling connected and “part of” created massive amounts of oxytocin, ah! There it is….women’s favorite feel-good drug.

This created a system where men were happy to work hard and even do crappy jobs to provide for their families.
Imagine the life of a miner, for instance, dirty, stifling, dangerous work for a paycheck. In exchange at the end of a long day, the wife would cook and provide a comfortable home for him to rest and raise his family. This made hard work worth it. There was also a huge amount of pride in this for men and they felt respected by their women and community for their efforts.

In today’s world where women are providing for themselves, this formula falls short. Both men and women are feeling the impact. Women run around trying to be superwoman and do it all, only to often feel overwhelmed, underappreciated, and drained.

Ugh! Nothing lovely or good comes from a drained woman. Men are overlooked for their efforts and often minimized, emasculated, and right down disrespected for who they are.

Nice!

This created a new reality where men, not being respected for their efforts, stop doing what they were willing to do and sacrifice for. Women now, experience men as being unsupportive, shallow, and self-centered. Wonder how this happened??? Can you see it?

Now, women, this is for you,
Men who aren’t needed will walk away from you. Men need to be needed. Men suffer from depression when they don’t feel needed. It’s in his DNA. It is primal and it is nature.

Women need to feel safe…but how will you ever feel safe if you refuse or deny men’s help and allow yourselves to be vulnerable. (Scary, I know, especially when you are raised to be tough)
When and if you allow a man’s support and care, when and if you allow a man to DO for you, you will effortlessly slip into your femininity, which men LOVE and cherish. You will feel the tension of being a superwoman fade a little. You will have more space for generosity and love for the ones near you and YES! Men will step up, YES! men will provide and protect you and YES! men will make you feel seen and safe. A safe woman has access to love and all good things are possible from there.

This idea may seem old fashion and obsolete, but nature knows best. Going along with your chemistry will always feel better to your body and to your heart. Going against it will leave you feeling worn out and disconnected from yourself and your spirit.

Overgiving women burn out, under giving men are needy and selfish.

Nature wants men to be giving and women to be receiving. Right down to our bodies. (just look down)

It’s how it’s designed and it’s what worked for millennia.

This won’t change anytime soon even with all the education and evolution we believe raise us above all this…Nope! The default system still overrides the downloads and new apps.

Hope this makes you think.

Andre Paradis

Project Equinox

Hello all,

Hope this finds you all in good health and spirit. I wanted to share with you my life’s purpose and the reason for this letter.

My mission in life is to bring harmony and peace between Men and Women. With divorce rates topping 68% … no wonder these numbers are so high.

The problem I see is that three things are essential for a relationship to work: You need chemistry, and your bodies are attracted to each other. You need compatibility, looking for similar things in life, lifestyle, how to raise kids, sometimes religion, etc. The third is the one that we fail at the most. Communications. How you communicate, make deals, ask for what you want, and tell what you don’t want. Negotiating, time, space, money, support, play, sex, chores, etc. I know it’s not sexy, but it is THE way to successful relationships.

I have been studying this material for years, I started for my own sake and my marriage. I didn’t want to be another casualty of divorce, What I knew is that I was committed to my wife and our lives, even so, I found that we ended up in difficult situations that I couldn’t understand, I found that very dangerous….what was happening that I couldn’t see?

As I learned how women function, respond, feel and need to be well and happy, I realized that none of these things lined up with the way I function, respond, feel and want. Whoa!

Next, the way we talk and how and why we communicate didn’t line up either. What’s going on??? Are we from the same planet? Well! we might as well be different species for we are in no way a version of each other. I mean, not even close!

Weird but it’s also the good news.

A year later my discoveries were so juicy that I would teach what I had learned and uncovered to anyone in earshot. A moment later Project Equinox was born.

Project Equinox is dedicated to people looking to Master their communication skills for successful relationships and the understanding of the radical differences between Men and Women. We know what it takes for a love relationship to work, whether straight, gay, lesbian, all the same. Complimentary dynamic is the magic.

Join us for an amazing adventure of discovery, understanding, and fun.

Andre Paradis

THE NEW REALITY:

Men want to be Heroes, but society has us believe that Masculinity is bad, harsh, and must be contained and dialed down.

Women need to feel safe, but society has us believe that Femininity is weak and that a woman must be strong and powerful to be valuable nowadays.

Masculine Men are attracted to feminine energy and feminine Women. Feminine energy brings out the best in Men and makes Men show up as providers, protectors, and cherish(er)s of women. This instinct is deeply rooted in Men’s genes and DNA

Feminine Women feel safe around healthy masculine energy. True masculine energy is grounded and stable. True feminine energy is trusting, passive and vulnerable to the masculine. Femininity is to receive and thus respecting of Men’s instinct to give, provide and be Heroes.

The true challenge between Men and Women is finding the balance of Vulnerability and Trust, Giving and Receiving, Respecting and Cherishing and the communication tools necessary to truly understand and negotiate our needs and wants

Andre Paradis