Throughout mankind’s history, men being driven to protect and provide for women lived through danger, risk, urgency, and sacrifice. All this is driven by the high levels of testosterone men have in their bodies and such activities create massive amounts of dopamine…ah yes! Men’s favorite feel-good drug.

This kind of lifestyle allowed women the space for children, having the time to raise them, support other women, participate in the community, and feel connected, Feeling connected and “part of” created massive amounts of oxytocin, ah! There it is….women’s favorite feel-good drug.

This created a system where men were happy to work hard and even do crappy jobs to provide for their families.
Imagine the life of a miner, for instance, dirty, stifling, dangerous work for a paycheck. In exchange at the end of a long day, the wife would cook and provide a comfortable home for him to rest and raise his family. This made hard work worth it. There was also a huge amount of pride in this for men and they felt respected by their women and community for their efforts.

In today’s world where women are providing for themselves, this formula falls short. Both men and women are feeling the impact. Women run around trying to be superwoman and do it all, only to often feel overwhelmed, underappreciated, and drained.

Ugh! Nothing lovely or good comes from a drained woman. Men are overlooked for their efforts and often minimized, emasculated, and right down disrespected for who they are.

Nice!

This created a new reality where men, not being respected for their efforts, stop doing what they were willing to do and sacrifice for. Women now, experience men as being unsupportive, shallow, and self-centered. Wonder how this happened??? Can you see it?

Now, women, this is for you,
Men who aren’t needed will walk away from you. Men need to be needed. Men suffer from depression when they don’t feel needed. It’s in his DNA. It is primal and it is nature.

Women need to feel safe…but how will you ever feel safe if you refuse or deny men’s help and allow yourselves to be vulnerable. (Scary, I know, especially when you are raised to be tough)
When and if you allow a man’s support and care, when and if you allow a man to DO for you, you will effortlessly slip into your femininity, which men LOVE and cherish. You will feel the tension of being a superwoman fade a little. You will have more space for generosity and love for the ones near you and YES! Men will step up, YES! men will provide and protect you and YES! men will make you feel seen and safe. A safe woman has access to love and all good things are possible from there.

This idea may seem old fashion and obsolete, but nature knows best. Going along with your chemistry will always feel better to your body and to your heart. Going against it will leave you feeling worn out and disconnected from yourself and your spirit.

Overgiving women burn out, under giving men are needy and selfish.

Nature wants men to be giving and women to be receiving. Right down to our bodies. (just look down)

It’s how it’s designed and it’s what worked for millennia.

This won’t change anytime soon even with all the education and evolution we believe raise us above all this…Nope! The default system still overrides the downloads and new apps.

Hope this makes you think.

Andre Paradis

Project Equinox

Hello all,

Hope this finds you all in good health and spirit. I wanted to share with you my life’s purpose and the reason for this letter.

My mission in life is to bring harmony and peace between Men and Women. With divorce rates topping 68% … no wonder these numbers are so high.

The problem I see is that three things are essential for a relationship to work: You need chemistry, and your bodies are attracted to each other. You need compatibility, looking for similar things in life, lifestyle, how to raise kids, sometimes religion, etc. The third is the one that we fail at the most. Communications. How you communicate, make deals, ask for what you want, and tell what you don’t want. Negotiating, time, space, money, support, play, sex, chores, etc. I know it’s not sexy, but it is THE way to successful relationships.

I have been studying this material for years, I started for my own sake and my marriage. I didn’t want to be another casualty of divorce, What I knew is that I was committed to my wife and our lives, even so, I found that we ended up in difficult situations that I couldn’t understand, I found that very dangerous….what was happening that I couldn’t see?

As I learned how women function, respond, feel and need to be well and happy, I realized that none of these things lined up with the way I function, respond, feel and want. Whoa!

Next, the way we talk and how and why we communicate didn’t line up either. What’s going on??? Are we from the same planet? Well! we might as well be different species for we are in no way a version of each other. I mean, not even close!

Weird but it’s also the good news.

A year later my discoveries were so juicy that I would teach what I had learned and uncovered to anyone in earshot. A moment later Project Equinox was born.

Project Equinox is dedicated to people looking to Master their communication skills for successful relationships and the understanding of the radical differences between Men and Women. We know what it takes for a love relationship to work, whether straight, gay, lesbian, all the same. Complimentary dynamic is the magic.

Join us for an amazing adventure of discovery, understanding, and fun.

Andre Paradis

THE NEW REALITY:

Men want to be Heroes, but society has us believe that Masculinity is bad, harsh, and must be contained and dialed down.

Women need to feel safe, but society has us believe that Femininity is weak and that a woman must be strong and powerful to be valuable nowadays.

Masculine Men are attracted to feminine energy and feminine Women. Feminine energy brings out the best in Men and makes Men show up as providers, protectors, and cherish(er)s of women. This instinct is deeply rooted in Men’s genes and DNA

Feminine Women feel safe around healthy masculine energy. True masculine energy is grounded and stable. True feminine energy is trusting, passive and vulnerable to the masculine. Femininity is to receive and thus respecting of Men’s instinct to give, provide and be Heroes.

The true challenge between Men and Women is finding the balance of Vulnerability and Trust, Giving and Receiving, Respecting and Cherishing and the communication tools necessary to truly understand and negotiate our needs and wants

Andre Paradis