Communicating with Men- An Insight on What you may Have Experienced

In our culture, which has become extremely “feminized” in the past few decades, the “go to” communication style constantly being encouraged is the feminine style. And that style is – to speak.

Speaking is women’s favorite style of communication with men, women, children, everyone! In itself, there’s nothing wrong with that. However, let me say that,

“Speaking is a feminized paradigm, NOT a Masculine paradigm in communications”

Men of course do talk, can talk, and will talk, but much much less than women, and also for different reasons. It is simply NOT a natural or preferred choice for communication in general for men. For women, this is often seen as “the problem” with men.

“I only get a one-word answer, I don’t know what’s going on inside him, what he’s thinking, how he feels about me”

Since speaking is so natural, easy, and a huge source of connection for women, they often insist that men “should” be more talkative, open, and vulnerable with their thoughts, emotions, and inner feelings like women. But since men DON’T NEED to talk for connection, but rather use talking almost solely to exchange data or information, women often conclude that men are shallow, selfish, uncaring, and even defective.

That’s a big mistake ladies.

These assumptions are both absolutely inaccurate AND right down wrong. Men have feelings, very deep feelings, however, instinct has men compelled to keep them bottled up for their safety. Revealing your weaknesses may prove deadly is how it feels. That’s probably the first thing to remember about men.

Next, men simply communicate differently in nature and by nature. Talking is “work” for most men and they do it as needed only. Three-hour conversations or long phone calls are for your girlfriends, not your man {if he’s really a man). Sorry. But you all know this on some level.

I’m suggesting that we don’t make men wrong for the way they’re wired, rather understand why that is and how to meet each other somewhere in the middle.

You cannot insist or demand he does it your way. That will never work. Think back, you probably have experienced this. It’s not that he’s a jerk, it’s that it’s absolutely disrespectful to his very being.

Imagine if men went around demanding that women stop all their clucking simply because it’s irritating?

“You talk too much for no good reason, I need you to stop and be quiet unless you have something worth sharing or talking about.” 

Can you Imagine any man saying that? Well, that’s what you do to men by insisting that they operate like women. Real men will never communicate in the way women do or want them to. You have to respect that. You want to learn to flex and learn to appreciate HIS way and style of communicating if you want more. Then, learn to meet somewhere in the middle. That is what successful couples do.

Other parts of the world seemingly understand this better than the U.S.

Here’s an example of that from a client who lives here now:

“I grew up in France and am better emotionally calibrated to the French embrace of the feminine, that, mixed in with understanding the more masculine, non-verbal, tactile communication style works great!”.

Michelle L.

So, is anyone curious to know how men communicate naturally?

The respectful way? The way that works for him best.

Wouldn’t that be something great to know?

Come join any of my programs, learn what works for men and why.

Once you know, it all becomes really fun.

“It’s so easy when you know what to do”

Is what my clients say after their program.

Make an appointment to schedule your complimentary Breakthrough call with me here

https://projectequinox.net/contact/

We’ll see what’s not working, what your big dream is, and how I can get you there.

This call is my gift to you. (worth $397)

Go for it!!

-Andre